It’s hard for churches to handle problems sometimes.
Christians in America today are taught from an early age that problems should be settled quietly. We get spoon-fed pointless happy thoughts and nothing convicting (see I’m Encouraged Too Much).
Because of that, issues between Christians are swept under the rug. “What? No quarrel here. We’re brothers in Christ. We’re unified. We love each other.”
Can we be honest with the public? No one gets along with everyone in their church, and pretending otherwise is only going to cause problems.
Is it sin to hold anger against our brother? Yes. We sin. We should make an effort not to, but we’re likely going to be angry with each other. So here’s what the Bible says.
““You have heard that it was said to those of old, ‘You shall not murder; and whoever murders will be liable to judgment.’ But I say to you that everyone who is angry with his brother will be liable to judgment; whoever insults his brother will be liable to the council; and whoever says, ‘You fool!’ will be liable to the hell of fire. So if you are offering your gift at the altar and there remember that your brother has something against you, leave your gift there before the altar and go. First be reconciled to your brother, and then come and offer your gift. Come to terms quickly with your accuser while you are going with him to court, lest your accuser hand you over to the judge, and the judge to the guard, and you be put in prison. Truly, I say to you, you will never get out until you have paid the last penny.”
Matthew 5:21-26 ESV
So, we are to reconcile, or at least make the effort to. After all, Romans 12, which I quoted last week, says “If possible, so far as it depends on you, live peaceably with all.”
If we have an issue with our brothers and sisters, we need to address those issues so we don’t hold onto bitterness within us that can hamper our constant worship of God. They may not always want to reconcile. They may reject you or invalidate your grievances. But we’re called to do everything in our power to reconcile. Just something to think about.